According to a new national survey of New Zealand parents, almost half the parental population of the country (49%) claims not to have used physical discipline on their children in the past three months. This is double the number (25%) who made the same claim twelve years ago.
If this trend continues, the Prime Minister of New Zealand, Helen Clark, will consider repealing section 59 of the Crimes Act, which allows parents to use "reasonable" force, "by way of correction towards the child".
I wonder what the percentage would have been in 1970, the year I was born.
My mother had a wooden spoon called George. Most of the time, George spent his days head down in a stew or cake mix. But, on those rare occasions when my recalcitrance and truculance pushed my mother beyond the limits of her forebearance (in other words: when I drove her around the bend), George was allowed to pull his head out of the pot and and whap it against my bottom instead.
Usually, of course, the mere threat of George was enough to send me cringing to the floor, whimpering that I’d stop whatever insanity-causing behaviour I was engaged in. For instances of mild disobedience, a smack to my bottom or a rap of something hard against my hand conveyed my parents’ (and my teachers’) displeasure.
My parents were hard-working, thrifty, generous, thoughtful of the needs of others, welcoming, self-disciplined, self-sufficient, unjudgemental and, above all, honourable. Through their actions, their words — and their discipline, they instilled within me the importance of living my life to their standards. Which I try to do, every day.
If I had been born in 2005 instead of 1970, upon the eve of the repeal of section 59 of the Crimes Act, my parents would be borderline criminals.
I don’t know whether a little smacking hurts a child. I don’t believe it hurt me. I have a good relationship with all of the wooden spoons in my life, with no lingering traumatic assocations.
And I have never as an adult had the desire to hit another person to hurt them.